Weeding Out the Crap

There’s only so much a brain can hold, and I’m sick and tired of mine on the brink of overflow. Too much to do, too much to think about, too much clutter to look at. It’s hard to think straight with a brain that’s chasing it’s tail all the time.

Weeding Out the Crap helps you whittle life down to the things that matter most, so come along with me as I make life easier and more meaningful… one simple step at a time… one weed at the time.

 

Mass Shootings: What is left to say?

I have nothing to say. The sadness I feel after the latest mass shootings this week is profound, and the corner of my brain that stores words of wisdom and relief is empty. That my own government merely stands by with “thoughts and prayers” is criminal, and I am...

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Downside of Social Media: Anonymity Gives Us Courage

“People were rude and judgmental, not providing respectful discussion or criticism. I was going to clean up the comments but people were too rude and it was better to just wipe it from the earth.” This reply came from the administrator of a Facebook group when I asked...

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Fun Overpowers Fear: Driving Into Surgery

Imagine seeing your young, scared child driving himself down the hall to surgery? What a brilliant idea. Hospitals are getting wise. At Doctors Medical Center in Modesto CA small children have the choice of riding a gurney to the operating room or driving a mini car....

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Tradition of Fireworks vs Common Sense

Tradition of Fireworks vs Common Sense

He was crawling around the roof doing a homeowner’s favorite job — cleaning out gutters — when he spotted it. Surprise surprise, THERE’S A HOLE IN MY ROOF THE SIZE OF A BASKETBALL!!! Withered remains of a Bottle Rocket were nearby the rim of charred shingles. This was...

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Loss: When Good Neighbors Move

My neighbors have up and moved. I tried my best to convince them they’d never find neighbors like us again… and yet they persisted. We moved into this neighborhood 5 years ago, and the warmth of this couple has radiated across the street ever since. Oh, the borrowing...

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Laughter: Developing a Positive Attitude Takes Time

  I don’t regret it! I have no regrets about making people think about the important stuff. A new book is percolating inside my head, and in an effort to do some research, I asked folks to think about things they don’t usually take the time to do. Some seemed...

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Using the Power of Art for a Better Day

Using the Power of Art for a Better Day

“Good morning, Ladies!” These 3 words—whispered or merely in my head— is what begins my day on a positive note. And some mornings I need some help in that direction. Bad moods linger longer than I want sometimes, and I often have trouble shaking a really bad dream....

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Mother’s Day: A Great Opportunity to Connect

Mother’s Day: A Great Opportunity to Connect

Another’s Mother’s Day is coming up and this year I’m lucky. I get to be with both my children—AT THE SAME TIME! It’s a feat not easily accomplished when grown children leave town and scatter all over the place, but Christy and Jesse still live within driving...

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Too Many Decisions Suck the Life Right Out of You.

Too Many Decisions Suck the Life Right Out of You.

Behold my husband’s side of the closet. Lesson learned: life is simpler with only 14 things to pick from. Decisions still have to be made I guess, but at least one corner of your life would be simpler. And when your household mantra has become “nothing’s easy”,...

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Loss of Friends: Moments of Lonely

I don’t want to move anymore! The patience it takes for that whole process has “left the building!” I keep reminding myself that the upside to settling in a new town is the opportunity to explore and to meet new people but, darn, I miss my old people! The loss I’ve...

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Love/Hate: Tumbling Down the Tech Rabbit Hole

I love my iPhone. I hate my iPhone. Negotiating between devices, apps and icons, spins my head faster than Regan’s in the bone chilling movie, The Exorcist. But I am determined and shall soon be smart once again. ha I know deep down that the upsides far exceed my...

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Ears Need a Break: The Value of Silence

Ears Need a Break: The Value of Silence

Look what I found on my walk this week! With the enthusiasm of a rare bird sighting, I rounded the corner and saw my neighbor tidying up her small patch of grass with the gentle clickity click of manual mowing. The silence, or nearly so, was music to my ears. I love...

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Self-Confidence Boost: Letters of Recommendation

Self-Confidence Boost: Letters of Recommendation

I opened a file this week that kicked me in the butt. Income tax time in my house is for culling and shredding the past year, but this old file will remain in tact for the rest of my life. It reminds me of the good stuff. "Resumes" contains Letters of Recommendation...

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CPR: Saving Lives is Complicated!

Yesterday I saved some dummy’s life. In a two-hour CPR class I learned that "CPR is violent.” This, the instructor’s first sentence, was startling. The compression it takes to keep blood flowing to the brain can cause injuries but, as per his handout, “While this can...

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The Urge to Purge: Organizing Makes Life Easier

The Urge to Purge: Organizing Makes Life Easier

I can’t remember exactly when I first felt the urge to purge. Maybe I was trying to find someone's phone number in the Mt. Everest of paper piles. Or maybe it’s when I first got interested in Feng Shui 10 years ago. Whatever it was, the challenge and satisfaction of...

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Enjoying Your Own Creativitiy: Acrylic Paint Pouring

Enjoying Your Own Creativitiy: Acrylic Paint Pouring

My daughter started it all. Christy is an artist who temporarily put down her brushes and started pouring paint onto the canvas instead. The fascinating art form of Acrylic Paint Pouring seems like great fun, but really challenging. Some of the pieces she’s produced...

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“Worry Wears Worse than Work” (1915)

“Worry Wears Worse than Work” (1915)

The science may be wrong and I laughed when I read it, but even 104 years ago they knew that “worry” eventually takes its toll. The following is excerpted from the chapter called WORRY in a little treasure of a book I inherited, A Physician in the House by Joseph...

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Conquering the Slippery Slope of FOMO

Conquering the Slippery Slope of FOMO

I’ve felt it myself so there’s no more denying what I originally scoffed at, FOMO (internet slang for Fear of Missing Out). **Anxiety that you are missing exciting events that other people are experiencing, especially caused by things you see on social media.** This...

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Smiles Matter and Won’t Cost You a Dime!

Smiles Matter and Won’t Cost You a Dime!

To be avoided if possible: perfect gifts, kitchen slavery, mandatory cheerfulness. “Friends and family” is a familiar phrase this time of year, but not everyone has family or friends that can or even want to spend time together. Advertising and social media makes it...

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Cheerfulness: Its Influence Upon Heath (1915)

“The brain of an irritable person is overcrowded with blood and that of itself is a cause of disease. It’s most important, then, that we cultivate happy dispositions; dispositions which make others comfortable; dispositions which laugh at slight troubles and accept...

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Milestone: 10,000 Books and Counting

Milestone: 10,000 Books and Counting

Numbers don’t lie. But in case they do, I double checked. My book, Emerging from the Heartache of Loss, has now sold 10,134 copies. Now this 10,000 milestone won’t rock the publishing world, but it’s rocking mine. To think that I had a part in helping 10,000 hearts to...

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