Adjusting to pandemic isolation is loss

A reminder never hurts. People have lost so much during the pandemic over the past two years that I feel the need to talk about my book again, Emerging from the Heartache of Loss. People have lost their jobs, their health, social contact, and the freedom to come and go as they please. Many have lost loved ones. Learning to adapt to loss is more important than ever now, and my book can be a gentle start toward healing from whatever loss you’ve experienced.

Like everyone else, I thought my life would be back to normal by now. But here’s the thing, even in ordinary everyday lives, loss is a given. It’s that loss of the way things USED to be that gets us, and everyone copes in a different way. No way is wrong. It’s personal and takes time to adjust to new ways. That sense of loss is intense when someone we love dies, but we also feel it when we can’t gather with friends or family like we used to… before the COVID YEARS! Adjusting to Isolation is a pretty major.

Loss is loss, and COVID-19 provided plenty.

This excerpt from Emerging says it all. I am prone to over-sharing so I may have cited this before, but it’s one of my favorites. The book was designed to be a gift you’d give to yourself or to someone you care about.

“Loss is a life experience that we all have in common; there’s really no way around it. And we all have to cope with it in our own way. Since we’ve been coping with loss all our lives— ever since we had to give up that warm, cozy place inside Mom’s belly — you’d think we’d get used to it. After all, most major changes in life carry with them a loss… of the way it used to be… of the person we used to have in our lives. Eventually, we all have to adjust when loved ones die, dreams disappear, health turns sour, or relationships change. We lose moms, dads, children, husbands, wives, siblings, grandparents… our soldiers… our unborn. We lose pets, jobs, our nest eggs and sometimes even our sanity. The volume of pain is stunning. Some have anguished for a lifetime.”

Just think about the restrictions we’ve had to face since early 2020. Things are different now. At first I could barely breathe with that mask on. But my own health and that of everyone else’s required it. It was necessary. It is necessary. Now, two years later, grabbing one whenever I leave the house is automatic. Also, there was my beloved ballroom dancing. I couldn’t imagine — and resisted — dancing with a mask on. Panting with a mask on! But I wanted it badly, so…. happy to report that my feet are moving once again! I Listen, I also hated seat belts when they first appeared!