Loss: Compounded by the Holidays

I won’t be popular with this thought, but Christmas is celebrated with such fervor that sometimes the season feels more like a job to me instead of the pleasure it’s supposed to be. The pressure to “celebrate” comes from the assault early on of goodies, lights, music,...

Loss: When Good Neighbors Move

My neighbors have up and moved. I tried my best to convince them they’d never find neighbors like us again… and yet they persisted. We moved into this neighborhood 5 years ago, and the warmth of this couple has radiated across the street ever since. Oh, the borrowing...

Loss of Friends: Moments of Lonely

I don’t want to move anymore! The patience it takes for that whole process has “left the building!” I keep reminding myself that the upside to settling in a new town is the opportunity to explore and to meet new people but, darn, I miss my old people! The loss I’ve...

Milestone: 10,000 Books and Counting

Numbers don’t lie. But in case they do, I double checked. My book, Emerging from the Heartache of Loss, has now sold 10,134 copies. Now this 10,000 milestone won’t rock the publishing world, but it’s rocking mine. To think that I had a part in helping 10,000 hearts to...

Knowing Someone Cares is Like Gold

“You can tell if someone really cares what you’re going through. They are watchful enough to know when to leave you alone and helpful enough to assure you that you’re not. Your lousy day can change with the smallest of gestures: someone asking how you’re doing and...

On the Loss of Youth: Losing Muscle, Gaining Wisdom

“This is harder than it used to be” has been going through my head lately. Physical strength is something I never gave a second thought to. I’ve always been a fast mover and used to work, volunteer, parent, and party late on Sat. night then get up early on Sun. to...

On Loss: Aftermath of Divorce and the Heartache of Loss

When you write a book you don’t get to design the cover, and I was nervous putting this aspect in someone else’s hands. But then I opened the box filled with my complimentary copies. At last, the finished product. Oolala, much more colorful and cheerful than I imaged....

Memorial Day: More Than Just Time Off

Memorial Day marks the beginning of summer for a lot of people, and they’re excited to get a 3-day weekend to celebrate. That’s fun, and I used to have a boat so I know. But today means more to the millions who want to honor, not only soldiers lost, but someone dear...

Emotions vs Sensible: The Great Balancing Act

“You won’t always feel like this.” These six words have saved my sanity more than once because jumping to the worse case scenario is what I do best. You know, when you think whatever you’re going through will last forever. But then I remember, “Oh yeah, it’s not...

Loss, Washington Style

“It won’t always be this way. You won’t always feel like this.” These simple words begin my book about getting through a major loss. But these words were not mine. They were given to me by a dear friend who was in the trenches everyday, counseling men and women who...