People vs. Things

It’s especially satisfying to make a grumpy face smile ear to ear, this time of year. I know this feeling well because my secret challenge when confronted by someone who looks like they’re having a really bad day is always to elicit some trace of a smile. And it’s...

Adapting to Loss

“I didn’t hear you come in last night.” This was my husband’s response to my coming in late the night before. I was grateful he slept through my tiptoeing because he has trouble sleeping. Then I decided to interview him about his hearing so I could write about a loss...

Thank You All.

I’m so grateful to those of you who have helped make my book successful. I hope it has helped you or someone you know through the worst of it. You might expect a book about grieving to pull you down, but words of comfort can calm the heart- wrenching emotions that...

“It’s my first time…be kind.”

I wore my mom’s slippers yesterday. I hadn’t known then what it would mean when I packed them up after her death a couple years ago. But these tattered blue scuffs have become very dear to me because wearing them instantly connects us every time. There’s something...

Fill Holiday with Comforts – 12/10

Try to fill your holiday weekend with comforts… for yourself if you’re alone, for your family if they’re coming over, for your friends if you share Christmas with them. A whole day with no obligations happens to be my own Santa wish.

Simple Ways to Slow Down

Take a deep breath and get ready. It’s easy to let the stress of trying to do  too much cancel out the fun and joy in the season ahead. I’ve missed a lot over the years being caught up in doing it all just “right”. Here’s a little jump-start to practice: choose...

Re-do Holiday Dinner – Dec ’06

If your holiday season means more pressure than pleasure, here’s a suggestion: move the emphasis off food and your weekend will be filled with more comfort than stress. To those of you expecting family or friends, consider giving up that giant dinner you had planned...

Alone at Christmas – Dec. ’06

“Friends and family” is a familiar phrase, especially after holiday advertising kicks in every year. All those scenes of friends toasting, talking and laughing together. All those relatives happily sipping coffee, exchanging gifts on Christmas morning. But not...

Downplay the Shoulds – Oct. ’06

I’m resisting the urge to write about something connected to the holidays; you’ll be saturated soon enough. However, this IS a good time of year to practice “being yourself”. This may sound odd, but more and more I realize how much in life we...